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The Time Traveler’s Wife or How I learned to give up on a real relationship and love the guy who abandons me repeatedly


“The Time Traveler’s Wife”

This review will be handled a little differently than most of the others. It will start off with the movie from the perspective of a woman and then from the perspective of a man. Then I’ll tie the whole thing together with a bitter rant about romance. Ready? I sure hope so…


From a man’s POV:

It’s obvious that a woman would want the unattainable. Clare is the typical woman, who as much as she knows she should avoid a man who can’t stay put…in time. This allure is the typical damaged mentality that men dislike about women. She is probably thinking that “she” can be The One - The One to keep him in one place, er time, because she is THAT special and their bond is sooo… yaaaaawn.

Men feel that this mentality deserves a serious reality check. Don’t try to fix men. Men are who they are. You can give suggestions, but that is all they will be – suggestions. You will not fix the man you are with. Period. Furthermore, in the case of “The Time Traveler’s Wife,” unless you are a temporal physicist or something, you REALLY won’t fix his issues.

A good thing about this movie from a “typical male’s” perspective is that Henry DeTamble gets the goods before putting in any work. This way, he knows whether he should go back and plant the seed early on or not. “Play before you pay” is a male favorite, though not a good of a way of seeing things either.

Her commitment to him is great as he feels as though he has an anchor, but anyone who thinks logically will see that this is a sad state of affairs for a woman to be in.

From a woman’s POV:

Here is a man in need of a woman, one who needs fixing of a major issue. He is a project and women love projects.

It is so romantic how he needs her because she is the only one (at one point) who knows what his temporal issue is. Or could it really be that she is the only one willing to deal with this crap?

Her sacrifice in waiting for him each time he disappears is to be seen as romantic because of her commitment to him. Commitment is a great thing, but there should to be a tiny bit of logic as to whom you commit to and why. Relationships are supposed to benefit both parties. I know. I’m throwing out the crazy ideas.


“The Time Traveler’s Wife” itself is reasonably well shot (directed by Robert Schwentke). There is nothing really to note as far as shot selection and pacing*. The story (adapted by Bruce Joel Rubin) is well done - it shows how desperately we all want to love and be loved. It also shows all the crap some people will put up with for that love, or at least a pretty face.

*After the first act the movie becomes extremely linear, which starts to defeat the purpose of the film. If they were going to go the linear route, focus the movie on Clare and if not, do it right and jump around and focus it on Henry’s perspective on his/their life. Don’t try to have it both ways.

One thing I found odd: Who the hell uses a Joy Division cover as a wedding song? These people aren’t goth!

Performances range from meh to decent. In the meh category we get Rachel McAdams who is too sweet to be real and Ron Livingston. In the decent category you have Eric Bana. He comes off as a man who is tortured time and time again (couldn’t help myself on that one).

I have never read the book, but I’d be curious to see what other people thought about it. I think a book would have a little more wiggle room to deal with time a little more loosely. It probably also delves further into Henry’s inner thoughts on his predicament and how he sees his life. Personally, I think there is more meat in his thoughts than the romance.

P.S. If the above offended any women it was not my intent. However, I am a bitter filmgoer if you didn’t get that from previous reviews and/or the name of the site. :P



Official website:

“The Time Traveler’s Wife”


Directed by: Robert Schwentke
Written by: Bruce Joel Rubin (screenplay) and Audrey Niffenegger (novel)
Cast: Eric Bana, Rachel McAdams, Ron Livingston

Source of the Bitter: JAS

Comments, rants and other stuffs below
John Rojas on Wed, 09/23/2009 - 12:12pm

We finally got Dr. Ruth to review a film! He He.
What Joy Division song did they play, by the way.

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